Feb 012011
Authors: Lindsey Hoffner

Imagine that instead of using stereotypes and assumptions about what marriage is, you try to realize that not all college students are just like you. I know that many people consider it foolish to get married in your 20s.

However, I was disappointed in the Collegian’s one-sided view of marrying young. Age doesn’t necessarily predict a marriage’s success, the commitment of those in it does.

I’m a 25-year-old full-time CSU employee, part-time student and wife. And yes, I worry about birthday gifts for my mother-in-law while participating in class projects (except, of course, on Friday nights when I watch movies with my husband.) I don’t feel like I’m missing out when I replace bar hopping with a glass of wine at home with my spouse. I’ve always been that kind of person, even when I was single. I don’t feel like I am sacrificing my life for my marriage.

Marriage is a truly beautiful thing. I feel blessed to share my life with my best friend, who provides me with adventure and structure, security and freedom, support and empowerment. Am I afraid of divorce? Of course I am. Marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but that doesn’t mean it’s destined for failure. People can grow together instead of apart, but it takes commitment.

Just because some 20-somethings cannot see themselves in a permanent relationship does not mean that those of us who can are “crazy” or “dumbasses.” We’re just at different places in our lives. And that’s okay.

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