Last week, CSU senior business major Elise Nedwin was asked to write her own eulogy for class.
Sitting with her two sisters in the Lory Student Center hours after she was assigned the project, she says it would be difficult to write their eulogies.
â€œItâ€™s kind of like describing yourself,â€ Elise says, after thinking for several minutes.
Elise, Allie and Lindsay Nedwin are 22-year-old identical triplets. In less than a week, theyâ€™ll each graduate from CSU.
Unlike their high school graduation, at which they sat in a row, sharing a similar experience, the Nedwin sisters will not walk across the stage together.
Lindsay will graduate first from the College of Natural Sciences with a bachelorâ€™s degree in biological sciences. Allie and Elise will follow in the evening, both graduating from the College of Business with degrees in business administration.
â€œIâ€™m mad youâ€™re graduating first,â€ Allie says to Lindsay, laughing, â€œbecause youâ€™ll always be able to say that.â€
The past, present and future
It was a shock for Julie and Glenn Nedwin when they learned that they were having triplets but also the â€œbest thing that couldâ€™ve ever happened,â€ Julie said.
The Nedwins were born prematurely on Jan. 20 â€“â€“Â about a month and a half ahead of schedule.
Their births were separated by little more than a minute: Allie first, then Elise and Lindsay.
From the start, Julie Nedwin never saw the girlsâ€™ similarities.
â€œI didnâ€™t believe the doctor when he told me I was having triplets because I could only see their differences,â€ she said.
Growing up, their mother dressed the girls in matching outfits. But that was only until the moment the girls could dress themselves, Lindsay says.
Until they moved to college, the three shared a room, an experience that Elise described as â€œhaving a sleepover every night with your best friends.â€ In high school they shared a van large enough to fit all of their friends and now they share a Jetta named Aunt Janet.
And though theyâ€™ve shared a lot, they will always be thankful to their parents for encouraging individuality.
Glenn Nedwin said each he and his wife would take the girls separately out on what he called â€œtheir day.â€ And while the family celebrates their birthday, Jan. 20, they also celebrate the different days each came home from the hospital in February.
When in high school, each of the girls, and sometimes two of the girls together, were on the Dance Team, in the National Honor Society and more. And, thanks to their parentsâ€™ enthusiasm and encouragement, all three have skied since 4th grade.
When it came time to choose a college, they each had an idea of where they wanted to go and secretly hoped their sisters had the same idea.
Gonzaga University, CU-Boulder and CSU were among the triosâ€™ top picks. But it wasnâ€™t until after they toured the campus in Choice City that they each decided, independently, to attend.
None of the three could agree on where they were on campus when they told one another they wanted to go to CSU, but all remembered it as a fond memory.
When they told their mother, a CSU alumna, of their decision, she said she was very happy.
â€œNo. 1, I knew theyâ€™d love it (CSU). Itâ€™s a great school, so I knew theyâ€™d get a great education,â€ Julie Nedwin said. â€œAnd I was happy theyâ€™d all chosen the same school, so theyâ€™d be together.â€
â€œLeaving home is a big adjustment, and I just thought that it wouldâ€™ve been doubly, triply difficult if they had split up.â€
The biggest difference between her college experience, which ended when she earned her bachelorâ€™s degree in microbiology in 1981, and her daughtersâ€™ is the social interaction.
There was no Facebook and no texting when Julie Nedwin went to CSU. People had to leave their dorms and interact, she said.
Before college, people didnâ€™t recognize each Allie, Elise and Lindsay as individuals. They were often referred to as simply â€œthe triplets,â€ or others would say, â€œâ€˜I donâ€™t need to get to know you because I know your sister,â€™â€ Elise says.
At CSU, Lindsay, Elise and Allie were known only as themselves, separate from their sisters.
But ultimately, Lindsay says, â€œI wouldnâ€™t give up being a triplet to be an individual.â€ And neither would the other two.
After graduation, the sisters will go their separate ways, and, as Allie put it, â€œThe next step is not doing something together.â€
Lindsay is considering going to nursing school, as far away as the Virgin Islands, and Allie and Elise would be happy to make a name for themselves in the business world, ideally as consultants.
Recognizing the need for each to pursue their own goals, a move that could put them states-apart, the triplets hope to one day be close again.
The idea of living in a complex divided into thirds, one large mansion or three houses in a row on one block are the fantasies of three little girls.
Living within only a few hours of one another some day, is not.
â€œI want, personally, to raise our kids together,â€ Lindsay says, grinning big.
When asked what itâ€™s like to have three children graduating from college at the same time, both Julie and Glenn Nedwin said they are feeling overwhelming pride and joy.
â€œTheyâ€™re all graduating on the same day. Iâ€™m so lucky I get to experience this in my life,â€ Glenn Nedwin said.
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Get to know the triplets
- Major: Business administration
Favorite food: Sandwiches, pizza and ice cream
Favorite movie: “Secondhand Lions”
Ideal career: To work in the business sector either in the supply chain or as a consultant who helps companies to adopt sustainable/green methods
Favorite music/artist: Bob Marley
Role model: Parents, Jane Goodall
- Major: Business administration
Favorite food: Carbs
Favorite movie: “Little Mermaid”
Ideal career: To work in the business sector as a consultant
Favorite music/artist: Michael and Janet Jackson
Role model: Parents
Hobbies: Skiing, eating
- Major: Biological Sciences
Favorite food: Sandwiches
Favorite Movie: â€œThe Boondock Saintsâ€
Ideal career: Currently considering going to nursing school
Favorite music/artist: Andre Nickantina
Role model: Parents
Hobbies: Skiing, studying all the time