Virtually any college student can describe the behavior; alcohol
is flowing, beer goggles take effect and soon enough two more
victims have been sucked into the vortex of the drunken hookup.
Alcohol is often the catalyst for sexual liaisons, however, many
CSU students agree that drunken hookups rarely lead to meaningful
“You get what you’re after,” said senior construction management
major Deacon Taylor, “Someone not worth spending time with.”
Junior human development major Alexis Maxwell expressed similar
“I don’t honestly think I would date anyone that I met at a
party because you can’t trust the situation,” Maxwell said.
Parties and bars seem to be socially allocated as the places to
go if you want to meet someone.
“A lot of people go to the bar. They know they’re trying to hook
up and that’s why they’re there,” said Ernie Chavez, professor in
the psychology department. “We have no other place like that.”
Fortunately, drunken settings are not the only way to meet
potential romantic interests.
Besides alcohol-soaked atmospheres like bars and parties, some
students said that they have met a potential significant other
while being involved with clubs and organizations.
“Getting involved in activities that you are interested in is
one of the best ways to meet someone that shares similar
interests,” said Shelly Haddock, assistant professor in the
Marriage and Family Therapy Program.
Getting involved at a club at CSU could also lay a common ground
between students and leaves open the possibility for a connection
to take place.
“We have tons of clubs on campus for students with interests of
different kinds,” Chavez said.
According to CSU’s Web site, there are over 300 clubs and
organizations offered through the university. From the
athletic-oriented to those who are religious, chances are there is
at least one club that matches the interests of every CSU
Off-campus activities such as after-school jobs are another
common way that some students find meaningful relationships.
Work-related settings are often very social environments that
encourage social interactions and provide a common ground from
which relationships can flourish.
Although work settings can encourage romantic connections,
“there are certain difficulties inherent,” said Larry Bloom,
psychology of human sexuality professor. “The biggest problem is if
you become romantically involved with a co-worker and the
relationship doesn’t work, it can be uncomfortable for one or both
parties,” Bloom said.
Another good way to meet potential romantic interests is through
mutual friends. Mutual friendships provide a comfortable
environment to get to know someone.
“If your friends are friends with someone, then you know they’re
not crazy,” Maxwell said.
Although it can be easier to find others that share common
interests through involvement in activities and through networking,
there is ample opportunity to meet others in classes and around
“The library is the untapped resource for dating,” said senior
French major Christina Jones. “It’s better to meet a guy/girl at
the library studying than at a party or a bar.”
Chavez also suggested that classes provide a shared experience
that can be a channel to build and develop relationships. Whether
it is through the shared agony of a class or a mutual interest in
the subject matter, class could offer the opportunity for
facilitating social connections.
“If there’s someone you find interesting, it’s just as easy to
sit next to them in class as to sit next to them at a bar,” Chavez
Whether students decide to get involved in activities, classes
or any other social medium, it is important to know what sparks
their interest in order to be able to share that connection.