Sep 152004
 
Authors: Sarah Fallik

Virtually any college student can describe the behavior; alcohol

is flowing, beer goggles take effect and soon enough two more

victims have been sucked into the vortex of the drunken hookup.

Alcohol is often the catalyst for sexual liaisons, however, many

CSU students agree that drunken hookups rarely lead to meaningful

relationships.

“You get what you’re after,” said senior construction management

major Deacon Taylor, “Someone not worth spending time with.”

Junior human development major Alexis Maxwell expressed similar

sentiment.

“I don’t honestly think I would date anyone that I met at a

party because you can’t trust the situation,” Maxwell said.

Parties and bars seem to be socially allocated as the places to

go if you want to meet someone.

“A lot of people go to the bar. They know they’re trying to hook

up and that’s why they’re there,” said Ernie Chavez, professor in

the psychology department. “We have no other place like that.”

Fortunately, drunken settings are not the only way to meet

potential romantic interests.

Besides alcohol-soaked atmospheres like bars and parties, some

students said that they have met a potential significant other

while being involved with clubs and organizations.

“Getting involved in activities that you are interested in is

one of the best ways to meet someone that shares similar

interests,” said Shelly Haddock, assistant professor in the

Marriage and Family Therapy Program.

Getting involved at a club at CSU could also lay a common ground

between students and leaves open the possibility for a connection

to take place.

“We have tons of clubs on campus for students with interests of

different kinds,” Chavez said.

According to CSU’s Web site, there are over 300 clubs and

organizations offered through the university. From the

athletic-oriented to those who are religious, chances are there is

at least one club that matches the interests of every CSU

student.

Off-campus activities such as after-school jobs are another

common way that some students find meaningful relationships.

Work-related settings are often very social environments that

encourage social interactions and provide a common ground from

which relationships can flourish.

Although work settings can encourage romantic connections,

“there are certain difficulties inherent,” said Larry Bloom,

psychology of human sexuality professor. “The biggest problem is if

you become romantically involved with a co-worker and the

relationship doesn’t work, it can be uncomfortable for one or both

parties,” Bloom said.

Another good way to meet potential romantic interests is through

mutual friends. Mutual friendships provide a comfortable

environment to get to know someone.

“If your friends are friends with someone, then you know they’re

not crazy,” Maxwell said.

Although it can be easier to find others that share common

interests through involvement in activities and through networking,

there is ample opportunity to meet others in classes and around

campus.

“The library is the untapped resource for dating,” said senior

French major Christina Jones. “It’s better to meet a guy/girl at

the library studying than at a party or a bar.”

Chavez also suggested that classes provide a shared experience

that can be a channel to build and develop relationships. Whether

it is through the shared agony of a class or a mutual interest in

the subject matter, class could offer the opportunity for

facilitating social connections.

“If there’s someone you find interesting, it’s just as easy to

sit next to them in class as to sit next to them at a bar,” Chavez

said.

Whether students decide to get involved in activities, classes

or any other social medium, it is important to know what sparks

their interest in order to be able to share that connection.

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