Feb 252004
Authors: Gabriel Dance

This past Sunday I witnessed the final episode of one of the

most influential series in television history. Although I cannot,

and will not, claim to have been a loyal fan of “Sex and the City,”

I did get the opportunity throughout the show’s six-year run to

catch a couple of shows each season. Also, throughout the years

I’ve had several roommates, both male and female, who have been

dedicated viewers of the program. All of them loved it.

“Sex and the City,” for those who live outside the bubble that

is HBO, was a show about four middle-aged women who lived in New

York City. The show followed them through their many exploits

generally revolving around men, women, work and sex.

I know that the show covered “so much more than sex,” and I’m

sure that the character development and acting were top-notch,

there’s no way the show would have been successful for so long if

they weren’t, but there is no doubt as to what really set the show

apart from other shows – the candid sex and talk thereof.

The female foursome, made up of Sarah Jessica Parker (Carrie),

Kim Cattrall (Samantha), Kristin Davis (Charlotte) and Cynthia

Nixon (Miranda), covered topics ranging from threesomes to blowjobs

to anal sex and did so in a way that made women feel comfortable

and open with the discussions. Also, it gave guys an interesting

look into sex through a different perspective.

Of course I watched for the sex scenes, I’d be lying if I said

otherwise, but I also enjoyed hearing the women’s discussions.

It seems women have been pigeonholed in the media as not being

sexually free. Surely there are women who abstain from sex until

marriage and feel very seriously about sex, but likewise, there are

women who are like Samantha-sexual divas. Women who, just like many

men, enjoy sex with one or more partners and are willing to discuss

and try more … unconventional things.

In many ways “Sex and the City” made it OK for women to be more

sexually free. And sexual freedom does not necessarily entail being

like Samantha. It could also mean being like Charlotte, who

understood Samantha but chose instead to take a more conservative


For a long time it has been acceptable, and even a cultural

norm, for men to openly discuss sex. For women it has been seen as

much more of a taboo. Hopefully “Sex and the City” has helped to

begin leveling the playing fields.

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