Ammon Larsen may be the exception to the rule, but he is
He is now 25 and expecting his first child in June. Although
Larsen and his wife were married when he was only 22 years old,
they maintain a healthy relationship to this day.
“I was ready at age 22 … but someone else may not be,” Larsen
Larsen and his wife met during the summer at a job while Larsen
was attending BYU. They dated for one year before they got married,
and he said the key to their success was their mutual willingness
to put forth a great amount of effort and pay attention to one
“It’s more than just fair, or just a contract. It’s marriage,”
Larsen said. “I give more than what’s fair. She gives more than
what’s fair, and we have more than enough given to the relationship
to really build something beautiful.”
Larsen, who is currently a graduate student in the Marriage and
Family Therapy Program, said he dated a lot casually so he knew
what he was looking for when he found it. It is important for
people to take care of themselves and care about one another in
order to have a successful relationship, he said. He also said that
selfishness is one of the biggest factors in failing
“I need to take care of myself and make sure I’m strong so I can
be there for my wife, but it’s also very subjective from person to
person,” Larsen said. “My relationship may look very different than
Independent attorney Lloyd Boyer of Englewood said that he did
not recognize a trend as far as age was concerned with his divorce
“It seems to be fairly across the board by age group, but if the
people are able to hang on, if they’ve put up with each other for
30 years, they’re more likely to keep putting up with one another,”
The primary problem with young marriages is that often people in
their late teens and early 20s are still in a growing stage,
developing their sense of selves, said psychologist Cindy Swindell
of the University Counseling Center. They are still developing
their style, values and interests.
“When people are … married early on it’s possible those
changes could wedge them apart,” Swindell said.
Although there are many young marriage success stories, some
experts believe that young marriages may have more struggles. She
said it is important for any couple having problems to seek help.
Often the problems are completely solvable, but couples are not
educated on how to solve them.
“Generally speaking, younger people have a tougher time,” said
Holly Arnold, a counselor in Boulder.
She said that while there are exceptions, it is wise for most
people to wait until their mid to late 30s before they get
“Communication is huge,” Arnold said. “If your communication is
good and your commitment is good, than you can work through