OkCupid: A hot spot for college students

 News  Comments Off on OkCupid: A hot spot for college students
Apr 182013
 

Author: Kelsey Peterson

[youtube]http://youtu.be/0dPcvysyo6g[/youtube]

According to Statistics Brain, there are 40 million people in the U.S. who have tried online dating, but what is it that convinces so many people to look for a relationship on the Internet? According to Lindsie Livingston, a Colorado State University student who used the site for about three months before deciding to delete it, claims it’s linked to our generation of college students. She said that because of the way in which we use social media, it is hard not to meet people online, so why not? She used a site called OkCupid, which many college students are currently connecting to. Most online dating sites charge a fee, but because of it’s demographic, OkCupid uses advertisers for income instead. According to Find The Best, an online database, the largest percent of users on OkCupid are between the ages of 18 and 34, which is a much younger age group than most other online dating websites. Colorado State University associate professor Patrick Plaisance said that his concern doesn’t stem from the idea of online dating, but rather from the way in which people communicate online. He said people tend to focus so much on themselves that people communicate differently online than they would in person. Plaisance also referred to the fact that because OkCupid is free, advertisers pay for the site, which means they are tracking your every click. “We relinquish that kind of privacy for the convenience of that free service,” he said. “With OkCupid and any other kinds of free service, we have to understand there is nothing that is free.”

Enhanced by Zemanta

V-Day: An Open Letter to the Loveless

 Features, The Well  Comments Off on V-Day: An Open Letter to the Loveless
Feb 142013
 

Author: Jack Krause

Dear whoever finds themselves alone on Valentine’s Day,

Another year has come and passed and the dreaded holiday that celebrates those who can manage to support a relationship and alienates those who can’t is upon us. I’m here to tell you, it’s not so bad. For those who fall into the latter category, here are some tips and bits of advice to let that day come and go.

Remember one thing, your life is incredibly cheaper when out of a relationship. Cheaper in a monetary sense, but also in a time sense. Your time is yours and your money is spent how you want. When you want to do something, it isn’t up for debate, and you have the excess money to pay for it. You have the ability to work on yourself and not worry about another’s romantic emotions.

The other benefit to being single on Valentine’s Day is the fact that you have just joined a large club. This club is filled with other people like you, single and possibly ready to mingle. The ocean is filled with hope and you’ve been given the tools to reel in the right person for you. Also, remember one thing above all else. Love is not defined as being between two people; you are not alone because you have friends and family that love you all the same. Take that normally sorrowful day and make it one of celebration. A happy time for those who may not have romantic love, but more than enough people to call their own.

2013 is a year of new beginnings and fresh starts, make the most of it, and appreciate the present moment. Keep your head up, and love will find you.

Too School for Cool: Love comes in many languages

 Blogs, The Well, Too School for Cool  Comments Off on Too School for Cool: Love comes in many languages
Feb 082013
 

Author: Allison LeCain

Just as each person’s relationship is different, people express their love for one                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           another differently. The 5 Love Languages, a book

Cover of "The 5 Love Languages: The Secre...

The 5 Love Languages via Amazon

written by Gary Chapman, states that if you don’t understand your partner’s ‘love language’, then their love might go overlooked. By recognizing which love languages a person speaks, your appreciation and love for them can grow.

The five love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Most people use a few of these to express their love for someone. Personally, my love languages are quality time and physical touch.

If you’ve met someone who speaks the same love languages as you, you’re lucky. Hold on to that one. The reality is that it doesn’t come that easy for most couples, but if you can understand which love languages your partner expresses, then you’ll be able to recognize when they are trying to show their love for you.

I’ve taken this into account with recent relationships I’ve had. For example, my boyfriend is not a big fan of physical touch in public, whereas I am. However, I’ve become OK with that because I know that he speaks a different love language. He uses acts of service to show me he cares, and I’ve got to say, I think I can give up hand-holding forever if I he continues to cook dinner for me every night.

Without knowing what love language your lover speaks, you could discount their love for you. This is part of maintaining a healthy, strong relationship that will withstand the test of time.

 

 

Too School for Cool: Love comes in many languages

 Blogs, The Well, Too School for Cool  Comments Off on Too School for Cool: Love comes in many languages
Feb 082013
 

Author: Allison LeCain

Just as each person’s relationship is different, people express their love for one                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           another differently. The 5 Love Languages, a book

Cover of "The 5 Love Languages: The Secre...

The 5 Love Languages via Amazon

written by Gary Chapman, states that if you don’t understand your partner’s ‘love language’, then their love might go overlooked. By recognizing which love languages a person speaks, your appreciation and love for them can grow.

The five love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Most people use a few of these to express their love for someone. Personally, my love languages are quality time and physical touch.

If you’ve met someone who speaks the same love languages as you, you’re lucky. Hold on to that one. The reality is that it doesn’t come that easy for most couples, but if you can understand which love languages your partner expresses, then you’ll be able to recognize when they are trying to show their love for you.

I’ve taken this into account with recent relationships I’ve had. For example, my boyfriend is not a big fan of physical touch in public, whereas I am. However, I’ve become OK with that because I know that he speaks a different love language. He uses acts of service to show me he cares, and I’ve got to say, I think I can give up hand-holding forever if I he continues to cook dinner for me every night.

Without knowing what love language your lover speaks, you could discount their love for you. This is part of maintaining a healthy, strong relationship that will withstand the test of time.

 

 

Souled Out: Lets get weird, embrace your inner Gaga

 Blogs, Souled Out, The Well  Comments Off on Souled Out: Lets get weird, embrace your inner Gaga
Nov 092012
 

Author: Cassandra Whelihan

Creativity is at the heart of snow sports. Its common knowledge that making it down the mountain in a unique manner gets you major bonus points.

The mountains are home to all sorts of weird riding techniques where style and flare are highly encouraged.

Having worked at a resort, I’ve witnessed people of all types in costumes embracing their inner Gaga on the slopes. Everything from bunnies and intense camouflage to Pocahontas, you name it; I’ve probably witnessed it.

Yes, I have even watched a bride and groom take their first shred as a married couple decked out in wedding attire with their camera crew ensue.

It must be something in the air, but people are definitely letting their freak flags fly high.

Maybe the mountains help reawaken forgotten dreams; Halloween-like dreams of course. Where even the most established, professional people can get down with their free-spirited side.

Regardless of the reasons, I support these innovative peoples ability to laugh at life and more importantly, themselves.

It sure made my job enjoyable and reinforced my enthusiasm for the human spirit.

So this one is for all you love-lifers and snow-goers out there. Keep it weird ya’ll!

Too School for Cool: Cuddling made easy

 The Well, Too School for Cool  Comments Off on Too School for Cool: Cuddling made easy
Sep 282012
 

Author: Allison LeCain

to sleep is to dream

Photo credit: Janesdead

It’s getting to be that time of year when the weather is a little bit unpredictable. Some nights it’s really cold, allowing you to cuddle up next to your lover. Other nights you find yourself stripping off blankets and scooting away from your partner because they feel like a furnace.

Until the freezing nights of winter are upon us, couples all over the Northern Hemisphere will be struggling to stay close to their loved one throughout the night. Never fear though, because there is a mattress that solves this problem while inspiring alternative ideas to change cuddling from being a hassle to a pleasure.

The Modular ‘Love Mattress’ (see link below) is made from unique strips of foam that are designed to bend sideways to allow users’ limbs to easily slide under their partner when cuddling without cutting off circulation or feeling squished.

While not everyone can afford a fancy snuggling mattress, this design offers inspiration for other cuddling solutions.

Similar to the mattress design, you can use pillows to elevate parts of the body so that arms can slide under your partner more easily.  No one likes waking up with a dead arm, so be sure to use supportive pillows.

Another solution to this dilemma that I’ve found helpful over the years is this advice: cuddling doesn’t have to be full embrace. Cuddling can be simply holding hands while each partner lies completely separate from one another on their backs. Don’t make it complicated. The point of cuddling is to feel like you’re close to someone, not to suffocate them.

Now there’s still the problem of the erratic weather of this season. Generally, the nights are cool, but not cold, so you begin your sleep holding on tight to your lover only to wake up an hour later feeling feverish and sweating like a pig.

To this I say, fewer blankets are better. If you rely on your partner to give you warmth throughout the night while only using a thin comforter, you will be less likely to overheat. This will avoid that uncomfortable situation of waking up in the morning wondering ‘Oh dear, how did I sweat that much and what does he think of me now?’ (Less clothing is also an option.)

It is truly amazing how much warmer a bed can be when there are two people in it instead of one, so keep that in mind when preparing for sleep.

Another option is to keep a fan close-by. Sometimes one person may overheat quicker than the other.  With a fan next to the bed, the hot partner can angle it so it is blowing directly on them, not affecting their cozy, snoozing partner.

The most important thing to remember is that cuddling is about sharing an intimate moment with your loved one. It’s a special time for just the two of you to feel each other, so it’s important for both parties to feel comfortable. Enjoy this time, as it’ll make you feel closer to one another.

http://dornob.com/modular-love-mattress-made-flexible-for-cuddly-couples/

Disclaimer: cuddling is not for everyone. Ladies, do not get offended if your man cannot fall asleep while cuddling. It is nothing against you and there is not a whole lot you can do about it. If you’re reliant on cuddling, simply suggest that he cuddles you until you fall asleep, then he can gently roll away and sleep on the other side of the bed without disturbing your slumber. In general, spooning is the most comfortable position for men. It is also the easiest position for him to roll away from, so give that a try first.

Too School for Cool: When I move you move, just like that

 The Well, Too School for Cool  Comments Off on Too School for Cool: When I move you move, just like that
Sep 032012
 

Author: Allison LeCain

A drink called "Sex on the Beach", v...

A drink called “Sex on the Beach”, is a very popular in peruvian bars. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Bars are loud, hustling and bustling places. There’s loud music playing, it’s crowded and most people have had a little too much to drink.

Still, going out is a great way to spend the evening, whether you’re with your friends or stalking the opposite sex like a lion. But sometimes it can be so loud that it gets hard to hold a conversation with someone. When it comes down to it, it’s all about body language.

Reading someone’s body language can be difficult, especially if they’re of the opposite sex. If you can read the message a person is trying to display prior to striking up a conversation with them, you are more likely to get lucky, in whatever way you interpret that.

It all starts when a guy sees a girl from across the room. She’s so cute, laughing and dancing with her friends. Seems like she could be looking for a nice guy, right? Think again.

What’s she wearing? A girl’s bar outfit says a lot about what she is expecting to get out the night, especially her shoes.

Say she’s wearing heels; this probably means she is a single, available woman who would be thrilled to dance with you and maybe more. She’s wearing a short skirt and makeup too? Even better.

On the other hand, say she’s like me and she’s in a relationship. I have what I thought was a fool-proof outfit for bars that would guarantee that I would look cute, but avoid getting hit on.

I’m a girl, so I’m going to wear a cute skirt and top just like everybody else because that is what society expects of me. But look at my shoes. I know it’s dark in here, but look really hard. Notice they are moccasins. Do you really think I would be wearing moccasins to a bar if I was trying to meet a guy? No! My man’s coming to pick me up at the end of the night, so don’t bother.

You see, girls chose a specific outfit each night to display a message to guys.  If guys can read this body language, they will have more success.

On the other hand, I’m just going to come out and say it: men are easier to read than women. It happens. For example, if a guy is trying to look nice for the ladies, he wears what is notoriously known as the ‘sexy shirt’. This is basically anything in the ball park of a button up shirt with stripes or whatnot. That’s it. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

So say you have picked a girl; she’s wearing the traditional ‘I’m looking for a man’ outfit, so you decide you want to dance with her. Do not just walk up to her and start dancing without asking. Being forward can be good, but don’t be so forward that she’s thinking “Excuse me, did I give you permission to rub that on my backside?”

After asking to dance, take her over to the bar to talk and buy her a drink. WARNING: just because a girl lets you buy her a drink does not mean she is single. I get free stuff all the time. It’s just a perk of being a lady. It doesn’t mean I like you or owe you anything in return.

If she is in to you, she will find random reasons to touch you, even if it’s just your arm. Also, her eyes will be hooked on yours. You can tell a lot by eye contact. If she is looking back at the table where her friends are sitting or looking at her drink, she’s not enjoying the conversation.

Similarly, if a man is attracted to a woman, his lips will be slightly parted as he listens to her. He also might sit with his legs spread open and touch his face a lot. It’s a women’s job to make males feel nervous, and the reaction can be adorable.

So by now you’ve been talking to this girl for a while. She’s twirling her hair and you’re making her laugh. Maybe it’s time to give her your number?

Girls love a guy that can make them laugh, and a little bit of cheesiness never killed anyone. At this point if you write your number on a napkin with a little note that says “Call me, maybe”, you’ve sealed the deal.