Imagine that instead of using stereotypes and assumptions about what marriage is, you try to realize that not all college students are just like you. I know that many people consider it foolish to get married in your 20s.
However, I was disappointed in the Collegianâ€™s one-sided view of marrying young. Age doesnâ€™t necessarily predict a marriageâ€™s success, the commitment of those in it does.
Iâ€™m a 25-year-old full-time CSU employee, part-time student and wife. And yes, I worry about birthday gifts for my mother-in-law while participating in class projects (except, of course, on Friday nights when I watch movies with my husband.) I donâ€™t feel like Iâ€™m missing out when I replace bar hopping with a glass of wine at home with my spouse. Iâ€™ve always been that kind of person, even when I was single. I donâ€™t feel like I am sacrificing my life for my marriage.
Marriage is a truly beautiful thing. I feel blessed to share my life with my best friend, who provides me with adventure and structure, security and freedom, support and empowerment. Am I afraid of divorce? Of course I am. Marriage is the hardest thing Iâ€™ve ever done, but that doesnâ€™t mean itâ€™s destined for failure. People can grow together instead of apart, but it takes commitment.
Just because some 20-somethings cannot see themselves in a permanent relationship does not mean that those of us who can are â€œcrazyâ€ or â€œdumbasses.â€ Weâ€™re just at different places in our lives. And thatâ€™s okay.