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Authors: Anna Baldwin and Eugene Daniels

By Anna Baldwin

Imagine that instead of anticipating the upcoming weekend and what bar you might go to for happy hour, you’re worrying about what to get your mother-in-law for her birthday.

Instead of enjoying dating and girl nights, you’re cleaning the apartment, maybe even worrying about whether you’ll be able to get your homework done while attempting to play intense games of Monopoly with other couples.

So, this is the bleak outlook on life if you marry too young –– especially if you’re still in school.

No one wants to juggle class projects and house renovations and Friday-night-HBO-movie nights with him.

The fact is: Marrying young will just mean you will grow up while growing out of your relationship. It’s true.

And then it only gets worse. Eventually the worries will evolve into the issues of when to move to the suburbs or start a family. I suspect these musings will occur near the time of graduation.

Or maybe it’s the engagement that happens right around the time of graduation. You might as well send our graduation announcements along with your save-the-dates. It is good to be environmentally conscious and save an envelope, you know?

But seriously, it’s hard to know you are ready for marriage if you’re not yet sure about yourself, or what you’re doing in life. Do you know what you want your life to be like in five years? 10 years?

Don’t you think you’ll wonder what types of crazy adventures you could have had if you were not seriously committed once your four years of hard work in school concluded?

You deserve to have fun for a while, and eventually it’ll be the right time to start thinking about finding a soul mate.

I swear I’m not biased –­– I do have friends my age who are in great relationships, but think twice. Or for many years, that is.

Proponents of marrying young will argue you’ll be able to grow up with your husband, and you’ll never be lonely. But for both counts, that’s what dogs are for.
So, my advice: Wait at least until after college, and a few more years before you tie the knot. And adopt a dog in the meantime.

By Eugene Daniels

Getting married is something most people want to do. It’s as American as apple pie, Ford trucks and the fools of Jersey Shore. It is an expanding institution every year. The group that’s doing it more and more nowadays, shockingly, is our age group! Yeah, I was surprised too.

According to a report by collegenews.com, 7 percent of college students are married. I was shocked by that. What the hell are you crazy people doing getting married while at a university?!

Yeah I said it. I think it’s a dumbass idea to get married while in school. College is a time to find yourself and to understand who you are and what you want out of this crazy thing called life. You can’t do that if you let Beyoncé trick you into putting a ring on it.

Being married is a huge decision, and I don’t think a student in college can make that sort of decision.

Now, my best friend got married at 21 but … he has a real job –– he is in the military, and their relationship is beautiful. So I’m not saying that young people shouldn’t get married, but I’m saying that college is not the time to do so.

Marriage while in college is a distraction, as bad as that sounds. But it’s true. If you are in love with someone, that’s great, you can date them. When the hell did it become bad to be in a regular relationship?

It’s a known fact that marriage in the United States is growing all the time, but you know what else is growing? DIVORCE!

One cause of divorces is that people are rushing into their marriages. Getting married is a business merger. Ask any business student and they will tell you that no one wants to merge with a business that hasn’t reached some type of potential.

And in college, there aren’t many of us who have reached our potential. We aren’t ready to merge, dammit! So stop running to the damn altar!

Anna Baldwin is a senior journalism major, and Eugene Daniels is a junior journalism major. Mars vs. Venus appears Tuesdays in the Collegian. Letters and feedback can be sent to letters@collegian.com.

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