There are times when it seems as if there are only two types of
people in this world. Throughout this last semester, as attention
has been on the election and news coverage has aimed at college
binge-drinking, I swear it can appear as if we either need to
lighten up and let things go, or shape up and hold on a little
tighter. Why do we have such a hard time learning how to let go?
While I do not doubt the difficulty involved in letting go, and
have had my own struggles with it, I have a tough time
understanding how people can ignore the gray area and focus only on
the black or white.
Seriously- I know how important our values and beliefs are to
us, not to mention our opinions, but does it have to be taken so
far that we can’t respect or understand another person’s differing
thoughts? Or worse yet, divide a nation because we have to separate
ourselves into classified political parties?
I will admit it. I will open myself to the criticisms, but I did
not vote for President George W. Bush. And while I did not jump up
and down when Sen. John Kerry conceded, I knew that pouting and
whining wouldn’t change a thing either. I did what I hope every
American, whether Republican, Democrat, independent or undecided
will come to do – I let it go. What’s done is done, I did what I
could, and the decision has been made. The majority voted for
President Bush and he will be in office for the next four years, so
I learned to accept it. Just because you recognize something you
don’t want to, does not mean your thoughts, beliefs or opinions
mean any less. Hold true to your values because they are your own.
Don’t change your ways because the majority thinks otherwise, but
don’t be so stubborn that you can’t respect the way things are.
Learn to lighten up and find the good that you can, or else life
will become too criticized to be enjoyed. However, as for those
people who got their way, you too need to let it go. You won, you
got your man back and it’s been official for quite some time. Stop
rubbing your win in to the opponent’s face and move on before you
make people resent the outcome even more. We all need to carry on
with our lives, forget the votes and parties that divide us, and
concentrate now on what we can do to get the most out of this new
term and reunite America.
While it is vital to recognize when to let go, it is imperative
to know just how much to loosen your grip. The media portrays
college students to have such a hard time saying no and realizing
their limits with drinking, that they end up being poisoned to
death. Although the circumstances and stories surrounding this area
are tragic and sad, we have to admit that they do have a point.
Even after all the attention given to the recent alcohol related
deaths, it is still happening. We keep thinking it won’t happen to
us, that we will know when to stop, but sometimes things don’t work
out the way we plan them to.
Yes, we are in college, and yes, we should free our restraints,
live a little and even damn the man; but isn’t it possible to do
that without drinking ourselves to the point of no return? Can’t we
let go enough to run wild, but still have a grip on things so we
don’t lose control? I know there are people out there who know
their limits, but don’t you think the students who passed away
thought they did too?
It is the times when we are blinded by our strong-minded side,
or when we fail to recognize our weaknesses, that we push it too
far. So remember to focus on the in-between, to hold on tightly
with one hand to keep you and your values stable, to let the other
dangle to keep you free and flexible, and to allow yourself to hang
by a thread.